A HOT WIFE’S CUCK'S ADVICE…
I decided to start this blog as an advice column for the other cuckoldress’ who need help in plotting a course in this wonderful if not sometimes challenging lifestyle. I have been a “Hotwife” for eight glorious years. It has not always been easy, but then what in life is perfect? It is magnificently fulfilling. To start, I will tell you where I am at, give you some definitions and then give you advice on how to advance this concept and make it real in your world.
My husband is truly a wonderful man. Trite but true, he’s a great guy. He makes me feel special, adores me and understands me like no other man could. Is he prefect? Of course not, but no man has ever come close to him in overall quality. He has a way of seeing past all my faults. He either ignores them or doesn’t see them and I’m okay with either, because it makes me feel loved, something I missed with other men I dated. He’s also thoughtful, fussy, sensitive, fair, classy and cute. I do love him much.
An I enjoy whole variety of hot chisled guys with big dicks and who really know how to fuck! How great is that?With no longer term ties that would drive me crazy!
"You want some head baby? Maybe after I get a few hours of big thick cock! And I'm not getting that from you"
I consider myself a “Hotwife”. Loosely defined, I am a sexually liberated woman. I am proud of and actively flaunt my sexuality. Does this mean I am always 100% confident of my looks? Nope. I have insecurities like everyone else. But I use what I have and over the years, I have found a renewed sense of worth because I find sexual satisfaction on my terms, while bolstered and supported by my sweet husband. I can have most men I want, most men can’t have me.
A Hotwife dresses sexily, sometimes without panties. Often in heels. On the hunt. And by looking good often, it makes my husband want me more. Of course, he can’t have me. At least not often. That’s part of the fun.
"Do I look cute for my date? I'm getting wet"
TRAITS OF A HOTWIFE:
Sexually voracious at times, with cool periods. Peaking in mid-life, exploring different sexual arrangements. Dangers: Involving their self worth with lovers other than their husbands. Remorse for having sex with other partners. (Get over it).
So what is a “cuckold”? That actually is a bit complicated, but there is my best answer. It’s a husband who gets joys by sharing his wife with other men. He lives vicariously through her and in general, shows his love by sacrificing his own pleasure for her's. The cuckold life is usually intertwined, in various degrees, with a power exchange, or Domination/submission lifestyle or arrangement. While the woman ultimately has the bulk of the power, the real trick is to find a comfort zone for both parties to make cuckolding powerful and enjoyable for BOTH parties. Because even though you will be having sex with someone else, it really is a threesome, even if your husband isn’t there. Cuckolds vary, but most are submissive and hope for their wives to find powerful sex from a “Bull”.
"If he cums on my tits, I want you lick it all up!"
TRAITS OF A CUCKOLD:
Kind loving, often smart, caring, giving, needy. Dangers: Jealousy, “too nice” for some women. Needy
A “Bull” is a broad term but applies not to just any lover, but a man who likes taking another man’s wife. In a way, this completes a triangular dance. The cuck enjoy the bull’s skills, swagger and hopes his latent masculinity brings satisfaction to the wife. The bull enjoys the sex and the conquering feeling of having another man’s wife. It is a deeply powerful feeling. And the hotwife gets all the attention from both and hopefully, some incredible sex.
A “Bull” is a broad term but applies not to just any lover, but a man who likes taking another man’s wife. In a way, this completes a triangular dance. The cuck enjoy the bull’s skills, swagger and hopes his latent masculinity brings satisfaction to the wife. The bull enjoys the sex and the conquering feeling of having another man’s wife. It is a deeply powerful feeling. And the hotwife gets all the attention from both and hopefully, some incredible sex.
Other common themes for cuckolds include sodomy. Many cuckolds like their wife to wear the cock in the family. If you decide to have some fun and fuck your cuck, do it with a dildo that's bigger than he is. This is a lot of fun actually and it feels good for you both after some practice. Its interesting for me to understand the power and satisafaction of fucking someone well. This too is a negotiated activity. Continuting the role reversal theme, many subs like feminization, lipstick, sissy maids, or other variations on emascualtion, but only for you. Most cucks only want to humiliate themselves to humor and amuse and sacrafice for you! Pretty cute, isn't it?
TRAITS OF A BULL:
Cocky, sometimes ill mannered, bad husbands, often cheaters, skilled cocksmen, good to often great lovers, many times fun and charming. They think they are using the wife, the irony is, the wife (and the cuck too) are using them for their cock!! Dangers: Surprisingly, bulls’ egos sometimes require them to make a play to sneakily take the wife emotionally. (Trips, outings, and “meaningful" chats)The best bulls know to behave and simply show off their prowess in the sack. The worst silently try to undermine your marriage and try to send silent signals to your cuck by stealing time and affection from you.
Other key components:
"Do me lover, Im so ready for something big! Take your time,make me feel good."
The point of my blog is to give specific advice on cuckolding, not to go into the realm of D/s. But humiliation is a centerpiece of a cuckold’s world and something very difficult for a loving wife to understand. But remember your husband is showing his love by giving up an ultimate sacrifice. The most intimate of human interactions. He will thrive on you flaunting your sexuality, your desire for other men, and you need to find the confidence to be that Hotwife that lusts for other men. Of course, you most importantly must enjoy the thrill of wanton, unapologetic hot sex with other men, if you don’t, there is no point really. Some women think they want this, but don’t have the nerve to follow through, or find its too taxing emotionally to complete that circuit. For me, it was a little off-putting at first, but with time came confidence and now I openly tell my little cuck how much I need variety and feeling big and different dicks.
What to expect and how to start:
First start slowly. Remember that you are training a cuckold, even if this is what he wants. Also, you need to take things slowly to make sure YOU really want this. Prepare yourself for a rough patch here and there and don’t over react. Have some humor and determination. Your giving loving husband has deep feelings for you, and you being with other men will turn him on, but also may scare him if he loves you fully. In fact, be more concerned if he has no jealousy issues. Here are some “Hotwife Hottips” for beginners:
Always include your cuckold in the details. If he feels you are hiding things, he’ll feel left out. Being secretive is exactly the wrong thing to do!
Keep your liasions reasonably short. Long mysterious dates at the beginning will undermine the feeling of a shared intimate experience. WIth time, expand your time.
Balancing humiliation and reassurance is not easy. Here are some examples of ways to help your cuck along:
Thank him! “Darling, you are such a good man! You know I need big powerful cock to satisfy me, and you are being such a good boy. He really is a superior lover, and you are so good at being a house bitch.”
Daring? Yes, but then balance it soon with reassuring phrases such as “You have such a better personality. He reminds me of how good I have it with you in my life. But to be honest, I’m already craving his big thick dick! And I bet you want to taste his cum, don’t you.”
Stoke your cuck's cock, slowly and talk about how its cute, but useless for sex....still fun to play with, like a runt puppy.
You get the idea?
By now, you know if this is what you want or not, but discipline yourself. I wouldn’t see the same guy more than once or twice a month. You’ll burn out the bull, and fry your cuck’s sensitive circuit board. Keep both men wanting more. And you just might burn yourself out.
Make sure to share the experience with your cuck with all the details.
Other more advanced ways to keep you cuckold involved are obvious to me, but may not be to you.
First is semen. Yes, I said semen. Your cuck wants it; it’s so humiliating he may not tell you this. Make him taste, lick or suck your lover’s semen whenever possible. EWWW? OK maybe, but I think it’s pretty hot actually. If you are shy, let your cuck listen. And watch if possible. And if your bull wants to involve your cuck, you better discuss that first. You might freak out if your hetero hubby starts smokin’ your lover’s cock before you get to! But this is also a common theme in the lifestyle, but definitely under your control. Nearly all cuck’s want to suck cock, but only 30 % or 40% of bulls are down with it.
First is semen. Yes, I said semen. Your cuck wants it; it’s so humiliating he may not tell you this. Make him taste, lick or suck your lover’s semen whenever possible. EWWW? OK maybe, but I think it’s pretty hot actually. If you are shy, let your cuck listen. And watch if possible. And if your bull wants to involve your cuck, you better discuss that first. You might freak out if your hetero hubby starts smokin’ your lover’s cock before you get to! But this is also a common theme in the lifestyle, but definitely under your control. Nearly all cuck’s want to suck cock, but only 30 % or 40% of bulls are down with it.
Here’s the rub. This isn’t much different than any other relationship. It’s all negotiation. Just like everyday life, it’s worth the compromise. If you want the variety and fun of other men, you need to do some things to make it happen. The same is for your cuck. I negotiate some terms, he negotiates some and then we play by the rules and revisit it sometimes because we really want a quality life for each other.
Here are some of our negotiated terms:
My cuck only cums twice a week and I say when, I cum whenever I want.
My cuck helps me dress for my dates and watches me apply my make-up. But he also does my laundry.
I don’t see the same man more than twice a month, but I can see as many as I want.
I can have my lover sleep the night with me if I choose, but I don’t go on dates with the bulls. I’ve found anyway, that trips and dates usually turns out skeezy anyway. By the way, my cuck serves me and my bull in the nude sometimes, much to our humor. Drinks, snacks and of course, moist towels.
I also do some serious discipline, but again this isn’t about D/s, it’s about cuckolding.
Other tips. Whenever I am with another man, I make time for me and my husband for us. To keep the bond and show him that I will have other men and I will love him just as much if not more. I actually admire my cuck hubby, because I wouldn’t be able to stand him being with different women. He’s strong for a pussy :)
Even after eight years, there is some negotiation. My husband and I agreed to some new rules just a year ago, but my little secret is that as time marches on, he makes more concessions. I couldn’t be married any other way. I have way more sex and better husband than any married woman I know.
If you have questions, comments or ideas, write me. I always like to share advice and learn more! If you’d like to discuss more of the D/s portion of our lives and how it manifests itself in our marriage, please write
Monica.
